SOCIAL FEMININITY is the artificial, manmade, fake femininity, created by the society, in this case, Forces of Heterosexualisation (FoH), and imposed on men or threatened to be imposed on men, in order to force them to conform to the unjust demands of the FoH, and to control their socio-sexual behaviour.
Social femininity is contrary to Natural femininity in males, which has a biological basis, and although present in all men in minor degrees, when it becomes overbearing, becomes the basis for classifying the male as a different gender, a Third Gender rather than a 'man'.
Males who are naturally feminine, normally express this femininity through norms/ roles/ traits of social femininity (in heterosexual societies, arbitrarily) fixed by the society. If these norms are even wrongly held contrary to social manhood, then (straight) men stay away from these roles or traits.
E.g., when holding another man's hand is held 'feminine' by the Western society, (straight) men stay away from it, for the fear of being imposed with social femininity (gay)
Third Gender is known as 'gay' (or rather LGBT) in the West, although wrongly defined in terms of sexuality rather than gender. Imposition of the 'gay' identity is thus the biggest and the most concrete act of being imposed with social femininity, and understandably, (straight) men fear the word 'gay' the most.
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14 October, 2008
Imposition of Social Femininity for displaying sexual interest in men
OUR SOCIETIES, moreso the Westernised, heterosexualised societies, exert immense social femininity* on men for displaying a sexual interest in men. The westernized society, under its conspiracy against men, ties a sexual interest in men of any kind, (and not just an interest to be penetrated), with femininity and propagates it as such. The gay identity, flaunted by the westernised third sex, which is defined as 'men who love men' further adds to this mispropaganda, and so does the silence of (straight) men to claim their sexual need for men.
This results in men suppressing their sexual need for men along with any minor femininity that they have. They suppress it before it gets to develop itself as a thing that can grow into femininity in them (a misplaced fear generated by social mechanisms and mispropaganda) and can make them 'gay', and therefore, that must be killed if they want to grow up a (straight) man.
The men's spaces secretly or openly, and as we have seen, even in a highly heterosexualized society, give space to men to give vent to the physical part of sexuality for men, but most men's spaces don't give space to acknowledge any deeper sexual or especially romantic or emotional need for men.
Now, (straight) masculine men can handle their sexual need for men, by pretending that they don't have it, but at the sametime giving vent to their sexuality for men, under various pretexts available from time to time, especially in the youth. But, even the machoest man, takes care not to cross the boundary set for (straight) men, and never let their emotional/ romantic need for men take root in them. There is no social space for men to let this need take root, and their constant struggle to become 'heterosexual' makes sure that they are constantly at guard against letting their original natural need for men take root.
But, if, by accident, this need does take root, then all hell lets loose. Even the machoest man starts to panic in this case. He fights with this need, attempts to go against the demands of this need (e.g. by being hostile or rude to the man he is getting emotionally involoved with) and trying to crush it. But, if it doesn't go away, and he falls into an emotional tangle with a man against his wish... then amongst the first thing he receives from the society is the threat of 'social femininity'. The moment he allows himself to cross the 'manhood' line (straight line in the west), social mechanisms that are built inside him and that which exist everywhere in our social environment, impose an artificial, but extreme femininity on him. This artificial femininity works in the same way as does artificial masculinity, which too, just hangs in the air, and anyone who fulfills the demands of social manhood can partake this power, without anyone having to say or do anything... and feel immensely powerful.
Social femininity too hangs in the air, and the moment you cross the social manhood line, it strikes at you, out of the blue, without anyone saying or doing anything. And it makes you extremely vulnerable.
Amongst the first thing this does it makes the man feel extremely feminine, like a woman, albeit artificially (just like with lots of power and social manhood you can actually feel very masculine, with extreme vulnerability and social femininity you can actually feel feminine). This imposed, imposed social femininity acts like a magnet on the machoest man, and brings out into focus, even the minutest femininity that the man may have -- even for a few seconds. But this few seconds of experiencing the enormous social femininity from outside, and the little femininity from inside, the man gets a frightened for a lifetime. He gets even more determined to fight his sexual need for men, and never to let it overcome him.
This feeling of extreme social femininity may last just a few seconds, but makes him feel extremely vulnerable and unmanly, whenever he comes even near his sexual need for men, and he gets determined not to give this feeling a chance. Furthermore, he tries to regain his lost manhood and power by logging on to or pretending to be interested in his sexual feelings for girls.
At the sametime, because his emotional and sexual need for the man are strong, he may not be able to break with the guy immediately, and the relationship may continue in an extremely abnormal manner, with the guy fighting with himself and running away from himself, trying to kill the relationship and acting hostile towards his lover, and never, ever acknowledging even with his lover, anything that is going on between them. And if the lover acknowledges this sexual interest, that is the point when the relationship breaks.
Ironically, this mechanism doesn't work so well on men who are heterosexual by nature (all men heterosexual by nature also have a strong sexual/ emotional need for men). Their heterosexuality means that they have a strong feminine side to their inner-self. And it is either this femininity that they are already aware of, or the confidence given to them by the fact that they are 'heterosexual' already, makes them much more open to acknolwedging a sexual interest in men, without feeling threatened by it. Therefore, although, even they are required to pretend exclusive heterosexuality in the world, to their lover at least, they can afford to be more open. This is the reason why they say, that those who have a strong sexual (actually its emotional need for men which matters the most) are those that the west calls 'homophobic' (sic). While, so-called really heterosexual men, are not only softer and 'meterosexual', they are also, less likely to be 'homophobic'. While the masculine man who kills and deadens his softer side for men, becomes even more macho on account of killing his soft emotional needs.
This results in men suppressing their sexual need for men along with any minor femininity that they have. They suppress it before it gets to develop itself as a thing that can grow into femininity in them (a misplaced fear generated by social mechanisms and mispropaganda) and can make them 'gay', and therefore, that must be killed if they want to grow up a (straight) man.
The men's spaces secretly or openly, and as we have seen, even in a highly heterosexualized society, give space to men to give vent to the physical part of sexuality for men, but most men's spaces don't give space to acknowledge any deeper sexual or especially romantic or emotional need for men.
Now, (straight) masculine men can handle their sexual need for men, by pretending that they don't have it, but at the sametime giving vent to their sexuality for men, under various pretexts available from time to time, especially in the youth. But, even the machoest man, takes care not to cross the boundary set for (straight) men, and never let their emotional/ romantic need for men take root in them. There is no social space for men to let this need take root, and their constant struggle to become 'heterosexual' makes sure that they are constantly at guard against letting their original natural need for men take root.
But, if, by accident, this need does take root, then all hell lets loose. Even the machoest man starts to panic in this case. He fights with this need, attempts to go against the demands of this need (e.g. by being hostile or rude to the man he is getting emotionally involoved with) and trying to crush it. But, if it doesn't go away, and he falls into an emotional tangle with a man against his wish... then amongst the first thing he receives from the society is the threat of 'social femininity'. The moment he allows himself to cross the 'manhood' line (straight line in the west), social mechanisms that are built inside him and that which exist everywhere in our social environment, impose an artificial, but extreme femininity on him. This artificial femininity works in the same way as does artificial masculinity, which too, just hangs in the air, and anyone who fulfills the demands of social manhood can partake this power, without anyone having to say or do anything... and feel immensely powerful.
Social femininity too hangs in the air, and the moment you cross the social manhood line, it strikes at you, out of the blue, without anyone saying or doing anything. And it makes you extremely vulnerable.
Amongst the first thing this does it makes the man feel extremely feminine, like a woman, albeit artificially (just like with lots of power and social manhood you can actually feel very masculine, with extreme vulnerability and social femininity you can actually feel feminine). This imposed, imposed social femininity acts like a magnet on the machoest man, and brings out into focus, even the minutest femininity that the man may have -- even for a few seconds. But this few seconds of experiencing the enormous social femininity from outside, and the little femininity from inside, the man gets a frightened for a lifetime. He gets even more determined to fight his sexual need for men, and never to let it overcome him.
This feeling of extreme social femininity may last just a few seconds, but makes him feel extremely vulnerable and unmanly, whenever he comes even near his sexual need for men, and he gets determined not to give this feeling a chance. Furthermore, he tries to regain his lost manhood and power by logging on to or pretending to be interested in his sexual feelings for girls.
At the sametime, because his emotional and sexual need for the man are strong, he may not be able to break with the guy immediately, and the relationship may continue in an extremely abnormal manner, with the guy fighting with himself and running away from himself, trying to kill the relationship and acting hostile towards his lover, and never, ever acknowledging even with his lover, anything that is going on between them. And if the lover acknowledges this sexual interest, that is the point when the relationship breaks.
Ironically, this mechanism doesn't work so well on men who are heterosexual by nature (all men heterosexual by nature also have a strong sexual/ emotional need for men). Their heterosexuality means that they have a strong feminine side to their inner-self. And it is either this femininity that they are already aware of, or the confidence given to them by the fact that they are 'heterosexual' already, makes them much more open to acknolwedging a sexual interest in men, without feeling threatened by it. Therefore, although, even they are required to pretend exclusive heterosexuality in the world, to their lover at least, they can afford to be more open. This is the reason why they say, that those who have a strong sexual (actually its emotional need for men which matters the most) are those that the west calls 'homophobic' (sic). While, so-called really heterosexual men, are not only softer and 'meterosexual', they are also, less likely to be 'homophobic'. While the masculine man who kills and deadens his softer side for men, becomes even more macho on account of killing his soft emotional needs.
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